Sunday, September 26, 2010

The Lady's Reward

Is it really better for a woman to be seen and not heard? Well, it depends on who you ask. If you ask Dorothy Parker, her answer would be yes. Her advice to women: "Show yourself, by word and look." In fact, her poem "The Lady's Reward," is entirely about how women should always flirt but NEVER speak from her heart.
Thank goodness things have changed.
While reading an issue of Cosmopolitan magazine, I came across the article, "Why Men Love Power-Hungry Women." Can you believe that out of all the characters Meryl Streep has played, guys like her character, Miranda Priestly, from the movie, The Devil Wears Prada, the best? She's rude, she's mean, she's flat out b*tchy, but yet, the men find her character attractive.
Men today have grown up in a world of FEMALE doctors, lawyers, senators, etc. They find women in positions of power interesting and intriguing. Why? Because they always have something to say and always have an opinion. What's better than that? The conversation is never dull and there's always something to talk about. What's better yet- when women are direct and straightforward. Men love that. According to psychologist Chris Blazina, PhD, author of The Secret Lives of Men, "Men are very direct when they communicate, and they appreciate a woman who speaks the same way." Maybe it's best to be seen AND heard. So, instead of taking Dorothy Parker's advice and "never murmur[ing] what you mean" or "speak[ing] of the tears that burn your cheek," take Cosmo's advice and "talk straight, flaunt your ambition, and give him something to talk about." Don't be afraid to follow your heart. Have fun, but most importantly, be yourself. Flirt like crazy, but be yourself while doing it. Some guys will surprise you.

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

- Dr. Seuss

Until we meet again,
xoxo Brunette